09/20/09
Matters of the Heart
I was once told that you have to protect your heart from anyone by any means necessary. What does that mean? You can love, but not too deep. You can let someone in, but not too far. You can be sensitive, but not vulnerable. What happens when you love and love deep, or let someone in to the most intimate places you possess? What happens when they take that access for granted? Do they earn the right to be in those secret places, or do we give it too freely.
When our emotions supersede our intelligence, we have forfeited the right to put a halt on what could be painfully obvious. What’s funny is the fact that we always want to blame someone else for our own heart being broken, when in many cases, we set ourselves up for the failure. We mistakenly see people for what we want them to be, not for who they really are, when the signs are clear….”ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK!!!” How do you really know that the person you are falling for is the real deal and not the “representative”? Usually by the time we meet the real person, it is too late.
Feelings are there, and lines have been crossed. I think it is time to start caring for our heart in a fashion that is beyond measure. The heart is one of the most vital organs in the body, yet we sometimes handle it carelessly. We assume that if we pursue our illusion of love, the heart will follow suit, or if we trust someone with it, they will honor it to the utmost. Not so much the case… not only is it not usually the case, a lot of times it can be the most destructive thing to do. Leave your heart in someone else’s hands? Now that can be a scary thing. So take my advice, no one can love you like you can. When he says, “I love you”, make him show it. When she says, “I will always be there,” make her prove it.
The heart is too precious to throw away, and too important to leave on the back burner. Keep it simple, and consider the matters of the heart.
How to Approach a Real Woman...
Some men do and some men don’t: know how to approach a real woman. Recording artist, Keri Hilson describes some turn ons and turn offs in her brand new single You Turnin me that features Lil Wayne. This track is scorching and after hearing it one can predict it to be the 09 summer anthem for all the real women. It definitely speaks to women that are approached constantly by men who have no clue.
For those men who don’t know here are some turn-offs when you decide to approach a “real woman”.
During the initial approach when a man first spots a woman he thinks he would be interested in meeting some real women would rather you omit the question of “where your man at”? You shouldn’t be worried about another man. Besides if there is another man involved and is significant enough in the woman’s life she will provide that information on her own. This question can be a turn-off as well as a disadvantage. For instance the woman maybe single or not in a committed relationship but if she is not feeling your presence at the time she will use your question to her advantage to shorten the initial approach sooner than you anticipated. So just get to what your intensions were for your approach.
Once the initial approach is over (if you make it through), the numbers have been exchanged and some quality conversations have surpassed the dating starts. When dating begins it is important for men to know his status with the female he wishes to date. For instance if you are dating a woman that is self reliant, she has her own transportation, she lives on her own and makes her own money it is important that you can offer similar attributes. Because no “real woman” is going to be interested in a man that doesn’t bring the same things to the table or at has the potential that she does. With this being so, men should not offer to go out on a date when you don’t have a car. This is a definite turn-off. Due to the fact that a woman is not going to be interested in driving on dates regardless if you are going to pick up the tab and offer to pay for gas. When a real woman is subjected to this predicament her first thought is going be “how dare you” and truthfully if you consider yourself a man and have had any thoughts about asking a woman out in this situation you should feel uncomfortable doing so in the first place.
Another major turn off for women in the beginning is when men decide to invite themselves over to her place by saying “maybe I can come over”. In the real woman’s mind the answer is “yes, when I invite you”. If you haven’t received an invitation to the woman’s house then she either doesn’t want company or isn’t interested in hanging out around the house. So if you feel like staying in and making it a “movie night” then its better that you invite the woman over to your place instead.
For the men who don’t know: take these turn offs into consideration and switch them on when approaching a real women.
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